Backstage: Shame story I left out of this week’s podcast (episode #31)
This week on the podcast we were talking about shame – particularly shame that comes up when our kinks don’t align with out personal values. I had a personal story that I cut out of the podcast – just because it’s a bit heavy- but I thought it would be more appropriate to share here.
What is “kinky” anyway?
I recently learned a framework in my studies that really challenged the way I feel about kink, and what is considered to be “kinky.” This framework is called the 3 Dimensions of Sex, and it basically tells us that there are 3 distinct types of sex that humans enjoy. All of which are common, healthy and as normal as one another. The 3 dimensions are Partner Engagement, Trance and Roleplay.
You’re so perfect, I’m so proud of you! (did I just turn you on?)
You are such a good girl / boy. Well done for clicking on this writing. I’m so proud of you for being curious, and wanting to learn more about this kink! 😛
Praise kink has been blowing up on TikTok lately… and before you roll your eyes, I actually think it is great whenever kink is being shared in a positive way on mainstream social media!
Sleep Play: the Gateway to CNC play?
What is Sleep Play? Well, sleep play is a kink where one person is asleep (or pretending to be asleep) while the other person engages in sexual activity with them.
For some people, this sounds super creepy! But for others, there are lots of great reasons why sleep play can be a fantastic turn on! 🔥🔥🔥.
In the Dark – His POV
Do want to know what it’s like to play the bad guy? To sneak into your bratty step-daughters room at night and quietly fuck her while she sleeps? You were clever enough to slip some sleeping pills into her coco, and now for the rest of the night, her body is yours to play with.
In the Dark – His POV
In the Dark – Her POV
It’s time to get into bed, and listen to the rain while you fall into a deep sleep. You don’t know it, but you’re not alone. Your step-dad is in your room, watching you sleep. He has drugged you, and now he gets to play with your body while you sleep.
In the Dark – Her POV
Backstage: Do you Find it Hard to say ‘no’? (episode #27)
I wanted to share a personal story about a time when my boundaries were crossed. I think this story shows that sometimes we have boundaries that we rather weren’t there – and that’s ok too!
Do you Find it Hard to say ‘no’?
I was asked this exact question recently, and it really got me thinking… Since being involved in BD$M I have gotten a lot better at communicating boundaries, but I still find it very difficult to say “no.” There are so many valid reasons why this seemingly simple task is so difficult – it risks conflict, breaking connection, and hurting peoples feelings.
