12 Naughty Ideas to Spice Up Your Christmas! 😈

It’s December already… and as a little break from thinking about family gatherings, organising presents, and overthinking how long it takes to cook a turkey, I thought it might be fun to talk about how we can give this Christmas a bit of extra spice!

I’m Harley Rabbit — certified sexologist, kink-friendly coach, and professional bad influence. And this year, I’ve put together 12 Naughty Ideas to Spice Up Your Christmas.

Whether you’re spending the holidays with a partner, flying solo, navigating long-distance, or just craving something a little different, I hope these ideas spark your imagination. Some are sensual, some are silly, some are deliciously dom/sub, and every single one can be adapted to your comfort level.

If you’d prefer to listen than read, you can hear this list in episode #106 of my podcast Turns Out I’m Into It – available on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.
So grab a hot chocolate, take a breath, and let’s make this Christmas a kinky one!

#1: Fairy-Light Bondage

You’ve probably seen the photos of bunnies wrapped in Christmas lights on Fetlife. This is something I actually tried with Slade last year, and it was so much fun. Plus, who doesn’t love a few kinky festive photos?

A few safety tips first. Use battery-powered LED lights only. No glass bulbs, no heat, and nothing that can get hot against the skin. We found the lights worked best when we actually wound them around our regular rope. It keeps everything in place and looks gorgeous.

Shorter light strands are easiest to work with, and I recommend sticking to simple ties like a basic chest or hip harness.

Then all that’s left is to turn yourself (or your bun) into a whimsical Christmas fairy. Sparkly. Glowy. Adorably perfect.

#2: Christmas Colours Wax Play

If you’re into sensation play, Christmas is the perfect excuse to pull out the candles and your sub or bottom into your own Christmas decoration. Alternate colours to create patterns, stripes, or christmas-inspired designs across their back, bum, or thighs. Let the wax become part of the ritual: drip… pause… watch them react… then choose your next colour. You can even blindfold them to add a layer of delicious anticipation.

A few quick safety notes:
Use proper wax-play candles or candles with a low melting point — never standard household candles, which burn far too hot. Test the temperature on your wrist first, start dripping from a higher distance, and avoid the face, neck, and very sensitive areas until you’re comfortable and know what you’re doing.

#3: Adults-Only Blanket Fort

This one is super wholesome. You absolutely do not need to be a child to build a blanket fort — adults love this too. Grab your cosiest blankets and sheets, pull out your dining chairs or even the dining table, and if you’re feeling extra, use some of your rope to rig things up. Build yourself a kick-arse, cosy little den. It’s adorable to do this solo or with partner(s).

Once it’s built, what happens inside is entirely up to you. If you’re not in the right headspace for sex, a blanket fort is a beautiful way to create intimacy: snuggle up, put on a Christmas movie, and eat junk food. (This is extra ideal for littles.)

If you are feeling sexy, a fort makes the perfect nest for sensation play, a slow stroking session, or reading erotica.

#4: Christmas Event Quickie

For those of you who are naughty boys and girls who enjoy the thrill of breaking the rules… what better way to take advantage of all those Christmas parties than sneaking off for a quickie?

If you’re flying solo, or your partner isn’t with you, this can also be the perfect excuse to take some naughty photos and share them on Fetlife — or send them to a partner (or your crush… go on, it’s Christmas).

Little tip: if you’re going to take photos, please don’t do it in your workplace bathroom unless you’re in the mood for a very awkward conversation with HR.

#5: Kinky Stocking

Set yourself a budget and go on a naughty little shopping spree!
You can absolutely do this at a sex shop — grab cheap novelty items like mini floggers, flavoured condoms, a cock ring, or a pair of cuffs or a blindfold.

Or, if you’re feeling extra creative, take yourself to a non–sex shop like a hardware store or supermarket and see what sparks ideas. Feathers, spatulas, silky scarves, scratchy rope… your only limit is your filthy imagination.

This is super fun to do with a partner or a kinky friend-group. Fill a stocking with your finds and pull items out one by one to see what surprises you’re playing with this year.

#6: A Gift to Myself

Christmas can feel like it’s all about buying presents for other people — but it’s also a great excuse to spoil yourself. I’m not advocating spending money you don’t have or stressing yourself out, but if you’ve got a little extra to spare, maybe skip the obligatory gift for that aunty who barely remembers your name… and put it towards something you genuinely want.

Maybe it’s a new toy you’ve had your eye on. Maybe it’s a pair of boots or some lingerie that makes you feel sexy and powerful. Whatever it is — let this be the year you buy it for you.

And don’t skimp on the presentation either. Wrap it up, put it under the tree, and give yourself a delicious moment on Christmas morning.

If “things” aren’t really your style, you can also treat yourself to an experience: a massage, a spa day, a fresh haircut, or anything that makes you feel nourished and cared for.

The point is: spoil yourself a little. If you need permission, here it is.

#7: Letter to Santa

This one is a gorgeous little game for submissives. The idea is simple: the sub writes a letter to Santa (aka their Dom), explaining what they want for Christmas and listing all the reasons they think they’ve been good and deserve a treat.

For example:
“I’ve been practicing waiting patiently when you tell me to.”
“I’ve been using my words and asking for what I want.”
“I’ve been a good little slut and sent you naughty photos when you asked.”

It’s then up to the Dom to decide whether they’ve earned it… or whether someone needs to work a little harder for their present.

This is great for D/s dynamics, age play, and long-distance relationships — the anticipation makes it extra hot. And if you’re a solo submissive, you can absolutely write your letter to Santa himself and still enjoy the fantasy.

#8: Naughty-or-Nice List

This one is a great way to start exploring your desires. Or even setting some goals for the new year.

Start by writing out all your Nice desires — the wholesome, “treat yourself” things that make you feel good.

Think:

• take a cooking class
• go to a fancy hotel
• read a book in the bath
• buy yourself a ridiculously overpriced pastry

Then, write a second list of all your Naughty desires: Things like:

• try a butt plug
• have a threesome
• give your Dom head in the car
• send a spicy photo to your partner

And for extra credit, write a third list: the things you fantasise about doing but would never actually do. These can be naughty-sexy or just plain naughty.

• send David at work a picture of my boobs
• dye my hair fire engine red
• light dog poop and leave it on my neighbours doorstep

Important:
Keep this list very private! Unless you want it to spark the beginning of a blackmail roleplay…

Hmmm. 🤔

#9: “Santa’s Lap” D/s Game

This one is a classic bit of festive D/s fun. The sub sits on Santa’s (aka the Dom’s) lap and has to answer questions truthfully. Questions like “Have you been a good boy/girl?” or “Did you behave this year?”

Santa asks, the sub answers, and Santa decides if they’re telling the truth. If so, they might get a treat. If not, well, that earns a spanking.

Here are some question ideas to get the dynamic flowing:

– “Are you wearing what I told you to wear?”
– “Were you hoping Santa would spank you tonight?”
– “Have you been kind to yourself today?”
– “Did you finish all your chores?”

#10: “Mommy or Daddy Caught You” Roleplay

These next two ideas are Christmas-themed roleplay scenarios designed to add a festive twist to your usual play.

In this one, the setup is simple: Mommy or Daddy catches the sub snooping for presents. And of course… punishments must be applied.

You can stick with traditional punishments like spankings, corner time, or writing lines (“I will not peek at my Christmas presents”), or you can get creative. Make them wear an embarrassing Christmas-themed outfit, sing a Christmas carol, or clean the house before the guests arrive for the big family lunch.

It’s perfect for subs, littles, brats, and slaves… anyone who enjoys being caught in the act and gently (or firmly) corrected.

#11: “The Toy Tester” Roleplay

In this roleplay, the submissive partner dresses up as an elf and gets put in charge of testing the toys at Santa’s workshop. The Dominant partner — either Santa, or a more experienced, higher ranking elf— tells the sub which toys to test and exactly how to test them, and might even assess their performance.

This can be a very dirty scene, using adult toys like vibrators, paddles, restraints, or plugs. Or it can be a wholesome, playful version for littles, where the toys are plushies, colouring books, LEGO sets, where the elf gets to explain what they like and don’t like.

#12: Festive Aftercare Treats

However you decide to play over the holidays, aftercare is where all the warmth and connection lands. And why not make it extra festive by making it Christmas themed!

• hot chocolate with marshmallows
• your favourite Christmas biscuits
• peppermint tea
• a nostalgic Christmas playlist
• fresh Christmas pyjamas
• Watching a Christmas movie with cuddles
• Getting snuggly and reading a Christmas story book

Wrapping Up (Pun Fully Intended)

I hope this list has given you some inspiration. Whether you’re craving something cosy, something filthy, or just a playful way to bring a little magic back into the holidays. Christmas can be chaotic, emotional, or even lonely, and giving yourself permission to create moments of pleasure, connection, and joy is one of the kindest gifts you can give yourself.

Feel free to take these ideas, adapt them, make them sillier, make them sexier, or invent your own. There’s no “right” way to do festive kink — the whole point is to have fun, explore safely, and let yourself enjoy whatever feels good.

If you missed it, you can listen to me break down this list on my podcast Turns Out I’m Into It. Check out episode #106: Twelve Naughty Ideas for a Very Kinky Christmas available on Spotify and Apple Podcasts.

Wishing you a wonderfully naughty Christmas.

Harley 🎄💋