It’s December already… and as a little break from thinking about family gatherings, organising presents, and overthinking how long it takes to cook a turkey, I thought it might be fun to talk about how we can give this Christmas a bit of extra spice!
I’m Harley Rabbit — certified sexologist, kink-friendly coach, and professional bad influence. And this year, I’ve put together 12 Naughty Ideas for a Very Fun Christmas.
When people think of Shibari, they often picture intricate knots, suspensions, and beautiful patterns. But there is more to rope than the ties themselves. Creating unforgettable rope scenes isn’t just about technique—it’s about connection, intimacy, and attunement. The way you move, pause, and interact shapes the experience just as much as the rope itself.
Most of us don’t realise just how much gender influences the way we play in BDSM. Whether we’re reinforcing traditional roles (masculine dominance, feminine submission) or flipping them entirely (femdom, feminisation, sissification), gender is woven into our desires in ways we might not even notice.
BDSM is one of the few spaces where we get to play with gender roles on our own terms—exploring power, submission, and self-expression in ways that might not feel possible in everyday life.
Dominance is often misunderstood. In pop culture, it is portrayed as something purely physical: whips, leather, and a towering presence that commands submission. But true dominance is not about shouting orders or wielding power over someone else. As BDSM expert and intimacy coach Shelby Devlin explains, dominance is a psychological art. It is about creating a container of trust, safety, and anticipation, allowing the submissive to let go and surrender fully.
Sharing sexual fantasies with your partner can feel like one of the most vulnerable conversations you’ll ever have. After all, these are deeply personal, intimate desires that you might not even have fully accepted yourself. It’s no wonder that many of us struggle to open up about them. But when done thoughtfully, sharing your fantasies can create a deeper connection, foster intimacy, and even make your relationship more fun and exciting.
Sharing sexual fantasies with your partner can feel like one of the most vulnerable conversations you’ll ever have. After all, these are deeply personal, intimate desires that you might not even have fully accepted yourself. It’s no wonder that many of us struggle to open up about them. But when done thoughtfully, sharing your fantasies can create a deeper connection, foster intimacy, and even make your relationship more fun and exciting.
Have you ever had a fantasy you couldn’t stop thinking about—but felt too embarrassed or ashamed to even admit it to yourself? If so, you’re not alone. Shame around sexual fantasies is incredibly common, thanks to societal taboos, fear of judgment, and the internalized belief that our fantasies say something negative about who we are.
The term “submissive” is an umbrella that covers many different roles within kink. To help you navigate, I’ll outline some of the most common types of submissives, so you can see what resonates with you. This list is by no means exhaustive—kink is a vast and nuanced world, and your sexuality is as unique as you are. As you explore, pay attention to what excites you, what doesn’t appeal, and what piques your curiosity. These insights will guide you in discovering more about your sexuality and the types of play you might enjoy.
Want to hear one of my fantasies? Let me whisper it in your ear. This is one of my favourite’s when I’m in the mood for being objectified.
Enter a dystopian future, where women have no rights, and are used as pleasure slaves to service the male workforce. Listen, as one pleasure slave is strapped inside a company “Relief Station,” with all her holes exposed.